1. There are two very helpful ideas that give guidance and assurance on the TALKING DAY.   The first is this:  While you listen with accurate empathy notice where previous trauma is informing the current situation.   I often ask folks to say, “This is not the same.” You may find similarities as the past trauma is understood but during a crisis it is helpful to draw the distinction that the past is not repeating, not exactly. Two Life Savers 1. There are two very helpful ideas that give guidance and assurance on the TALKING DAY.   The first is this:  While you listen with accurate empathy notice where previous trauma is informing the current situation.   I often ask folks to say, “This is not the same.” You may find similarities as the past trauma is understood but during a crisis it is helpful to draw the distinction

Mothering Trauma My Thoughts about Secure Attachment with our FIRST ADVOCATE- The first advocate that we are hardwired to trust is a mother. Our ability to rebound from trauma is interwoven with the nurturing quality of our caregiver.  This week I was reading about the ways we rebound from loss and I read this passage about vesseling. (in red and green below)  I saw in Weller’s words a direct correlation to mothering. A mother is a holding space for our chaos as we face disequilibrium about learning how to make friends or speak a language. She is steady for us when we learn to stand up on our own. An adequate mother (vessel) builds hundreds of threads of attachment. These are trusted by a child and eventually the infant can stay emotionally regulated, even if he is separated from his mother for short periods of

A Good Description of how The First Days After a Loss Feels He was so tired that he was scarcely able to hear a note of the songs:he felt imprisoned in a cold region where his brain was numb and his spirit was isolated. from Tenebrae, by Geoffrey Hill MAKE IT YOUR OWN: Look at these two graphics below and write in your own words the qualities of an advocate.  *I have included mine in the video. http://thetalkingday.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/final-with-chart-1-3.mp4 vocabulary posts not assigned listening corner | Listening Room Related Posts Advocacy Part Three Advocacy Part Two Broken Attunement Broken Attunement- Pt. 2 Compassion Fatigue Interview with Susan Cunningham RIGHT SIZING, CORRECT TIME FRAME Small and Often Somatic Regulation The Locomotive of Community The Talking Day vs. Texting Day

Before you open the guide to six ways to regulate your emotions it is helpful to reflect on ways that you have already gravitated to calming your nerves.  If you think of ways that you centered your scattered senses when you were a child this will help you pick that behavior back up now that you need it. Your Personal Stabilization History MAKE A LIST OF TEN WAYS YOU HAVE BEEN ABLE TO MOVE IN YOUR WORLD  WHEN YOU NEEDED TO REDUCE  ANXIETY OR STRESS. 1-20 years old  &. 20 to present vocabulary posts not assigned listening corner | Listening Room Related Posts Advocacy Advocacy Part Three Advocacy Part Two Broken Attunement Broken Attunement- Pt. 2 Compassion Fatigue Interview with Susan Cunningham RIGHT SIZING, CORRECT TIME FRAME Small and Often The Locomotive of Community The Talking Day vs. Texting Day